MEET TODAY’S GUEST
Monica Jay
Monica Jay doesn't shy away from attention. She dresses for it.
Eight years into her crossdressing journey and she has figured out exactly what works for her. Mini skirts, mini dresses, small shorts, long legs, and the kind of confidence that comes from knowing your look and owning it completely. Her outfits are, in her own words, a little on the revealing side. That is entirely the point.
She takes her time with every product. Primer, foundation, lipstick, eyeliner, mascara, eyeshadow, highlights. Over an hour, every time, until she is satisfied with the result. Not perfect. Satisfied. There is a difference and Monica knows it.
When she is dressed she doesn't feel like an expanded version of herself or a different side of the same person. She feels like a completely different person, fully feminine, fully in role, driven by nothing but pure femininity.
Her advice to anyone just starting out is simple: give it a try. You will know right away if it is for you or not. Spoiler alert, she says. You will love it.
She is probably right.
Before we begin, a word of gratitude.
To Monica: thank you for the unapologetic confidence you brought to every single answer. You did not hedge, you did not qualify, and you did not apologise for a single thing. That energy is exactly what some readers need to see right now. Permission to want what you want and own it completely.
To our readers: you are about to meet someone who has figured it out. Not perfectly, not without eight years of practice, but completely on her own terms. Monica dresses for herself, for the attention, for the feeling. She is not here to explain herself. She is here to show you what it looks like when you stop apologising.
This is just the beginning and I am grateful you are here for it.
Michelle Sapphire
